Education is essential for the success of marriage. So much depends on how the people who enter the engagement behave towards each other.
It is good if the two partners have at least a high school diploma. According to the first marriage advisers, it is much better than the young man has a better education than the girl. The reason is obvious. It is the man`s role in marriage to be the leader of the house.
Courtship, therefore, represents a very important step leading up to marriage.
In more advanced and serious dating and that implies that both sides are now thinking about marriage and its responsibilities, societal expectations and goals. Courtship is serious for most of the young men and women began after high school diploma. If they are considering college, courtship can be delayed for a few years, but about 25% of the college and university population is now married. As two people make the transition from dating back to the court, they become increasingly involved with each other and less and less involved and affected by outsiders. To some extent, they live in a world of their own and the whole basis of this single experience is to please one another, each seeking to satisfy the emotional needs of the other.
They prefer each other`s 'company to that of someone else. The sense of belonging and know she is loved brings great happiness of the girl. For being regarded as worthy of love adds to the young man's self-esteem. This experience gives rise to intense feelings happiness.
That is why such a courtship is serious in a period approach the sacrament of marriage. Hasty decisions may lead to a divorce court. Infatuation and romance can be a happy moment, but they certainly do not make a lasting marriage. Courtship offers a trial period to determine whether or not the couple is really ready for marriage, if they really love each other. It is a discussion period to test each others character and personality.
It was during this period that the couple should be able to determine whether it is wise for them to marry.
Therefore, a young man should have definite ideas about the qualities of the girl he wishes to marry, and same time, it must have an understanding of the qualities he has to offer. A popular writer on marriage expressed this thought in a very positive way.
'The young man who began his adventure on matrimonial looking around for a girl good enough to be his wife is false beginning . The first thing to do for him is to make sure he is good enough to be a good 'husband.
Reducing the choice
There is no foolproof way we can assure itself of the right to marry. However, a number of studies have made which could easily serve as a guide in a more prudent and a less risky way to choose a husband or wife. The first of these guides or standards is the personality.
Personality
Marriage is never better or worse than the two personalities who are going into this system. The type of personality is therefore, is of the utmost importance. It determines or conditions for a high degree in the success or failure of marriage.
Personality is an inner man. It is you. It is with you all. Your skills, abilities, habits and virtues. Very obviously, the husband and wife can be happy together if everyone has a pleasant personality. Thus, it is important to know the answers to questions:
What kind of person am I? And when you can answer whether you are ready to ask: What kind of person should I have to To meet my emotional needs and others?
Look for and try to acquire and practice some of the seven great virtues:
Faith, hope, Charity, Prudence, Justice , Fortitude, Temperance, as well as seven small natural moral virtues of sensitivity, order, a courtesy, Punctuality, sincerity, loyalty, prudence in the speech, you can achieve most of these we assure you of a happy Marriage.
According to the late Lewis T. Terman, a psychologist noted, personality traits to look for in a woman are:
1. Kindly attitudes towards others.
2. Looks kindly attitudes of others.
3. Do not take offense easily.
4. Not too concerned about the impression it makes on other.
5. Do not take social relations situations as rivalry.
6. Is cooperative.
7. Do not oppose subordinate roles.
8. Is not constrained by the advice of others.
9. Benefit activities which bring educational and enjoyable opportunities to others.
10. Aim doing things for the dependent and disadvantaged.
11. East methodical and meticulous in his work.
12. East cautious with respect to money.
13. Is conventional and conservative in religion, morality and policy.
14. Has an optimistic outlook on life.
personality traits to look for in a man are:
1. Emotionally,he is still stable.
2. It is cooperative.
3. A benevolent attitude toward lower and disadvantaged.
4. Respect femininity.
5. A tendency not to be self-conscious and somewhat extroverted.
6. Superior shows the initiative.
7. Proof of a great willingness to give special attention to detail.
8. Is willing to take responsibility.
9. He likes to do things systematically and methodically he likes People.
10. Is cautious in savings and money.
11. Holds conservative attitudes.
12. At an open attitude towards religion.
13. Firmly upholds the code of sex and other social conventions.
In other words, the first thing you look for in a second whether it is properly adjusted, emotionally mature, Has and user common sense. Pure, ordinary common sense is a key ingredient in the marriage.
For example, common sense suggests that women who harass, are not affectionate, are selfish, inconsiderate, complaining,
Interfering, slovenly and quick tempered are at great risk for marriage. Men who are selfish, inconsiderate unsuccessfully their jobs, misleading, complaining, and not affectionate drives are poor risks in marriage.
Desire for children
The desire for children is certainly linked to marital happiness, if both parties agree. Both sides should have a deep desire to be co-creators with God. The exact number of children does not need to be reached before marriage, but having children, if desired by both parties will make a happier marriage. Couples who want children are more effective in their marriage than couples who do not want children.
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